What Is Love?

Love is the most powerful emotion a human being can experience. The strange thing is, that almost nobody knows what love is. Why is it so difficult to find love? That is easy to understand, if you know that the word “love” is not the same as one’s feeling of love. The word love is used as an expression of affection towards someone else (I love you) but it also expresses pleasure (I love chocolate). To make it a little more complicated, the word “love” also expresses a human virtue that is based on compassion, affection and kindness. This is a state of being, that has nothing to do, with something or someone outside yourself. This is the purest form of Love.

The ancient Greek used 7 words to define the different states of love:

1️⃣Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family.

2️⃣Philia: the love that you have for friends.
3️⃣Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love (positive or negative)
4️⃣Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love
5️⃣Ludus: this is playful love, like childish love or flirting.
6️⃣Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.
7️⃣Philautia: the love of the self (negative or positive)

These are 7 different kind of feelings. The love you feel for your partner is not the same as the love you feel for your mother. Even the love for your partner changes in time. You feel different emotions for different situations and people.

But still, we use the same word. It is easy to understand that a confusion is easy made while communicating. I can say “I love you” to two different people (and mean it), but I am actually feeling in a different way.

What you feel is controlled by the right side of your brain and language is controlled by your left side. If you use the word “love” 10 times a day with different situations, it losses power. Your left part or your brain does not get fully activated when you really mean “I love you” and want to get exited about it. 50% of your brain is a lot.

Never use the word love instead use others words to show your emotions for example: I love chocolate, becomes: I enjoy chocolate. I love my job, becomes: I have passion for what I do.

If you don’t know how to find love with in you, you will never find it outside you.

So learning to love yourself will give you a push forward to love everyone around you and don’t think that you will not find love love maybe infront of your eyes but you can’t see or feel it. 

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